Porn Kills Love – Part 2

pornkillslove3God desires us to love him, worship him and glorify him. How we view sex and marriage has an effect on our love and worship of God. Porn hijacks our view of sex in marriage. But what does sex have to do with how we glorify God?

The Marriage Union
First you need to understand the context of sex. Marriage was one of the first institutions God ever created. God described the marriage union as a “one-flesh” union.

Therefore a man shall leave his father and his mother and hold fast to his wife, and they shall become one flesh. – Genesis 2:24

God created sex so that the two in marriage can become one flesh in a physically intimate and beautiful way. Sex even connects two people emotionally in a way that’s almost mysterious. This is why sex is reserved for marriage. Only marriage is supposed to be a one-flesh union. Therefore, sex has no meaningful purpose outside the context of a marriage.

Union with Christ
The reason God wanted the conjugal union to be special and beautiful is because our union with Christ is special and beautiful, and infinitely more so. The one-flesh union with each other through marriage is a picture of the one-flesh union with Christ through faith.

“Therefore a man shall leave his father and mother and hold fast to his wife, and the two shall become one flesh.” This mystery is profound, and I am saying that it refers to Christ and the church. – Ephesians 5:31-32

Through faith and trust in the gospel, we are not only forgiven of our sin, but more importantly, we become one with Christ. This is vital because Christ, who is the spring of life, can give us brand new life in our union with him.

In a way, sex is an earthly reminder that our salvation is based on our spiritual union with Christ. But just know that the spiritual union is the greater reality that sex is pointing to. If you can see how sex and marriage is an intimate union, then you are only beginning to see how intimate and real our union with Christ is.

This means when any married couple enters a covenant union and becomes one flesh, the joys and beauty of it all is intended to move us to rejoice that the church is united with Christ in a magnified way. As one strives to be faithful in marriage, we should praise God that Jesus is, always has been and always will be perfectly faithful to his bride, the church. Simply put, God is glorified in the display of faithful marriages.

The Problem with Porn
If Christ is faithful to the church, we are to be faithful to our spouse (or future spouse). If we are not faithful in this regard, we ruin the picture that marriage was intended to be.

Does porn betray your marriage (or future marriage)? Absolutely.

Porn and masturbation are acts of habitual adultery and unfaithfulness. Jesus made it clear that if you even look at or think about someone lustfully, you commit adultery (Matt. 5:27-28). Christians who enjoy porn and masturbation are constantly and willfully distorting the biblical view of sex and marriage. This distortion robs God of the glory we are called to give him. We say we love God and want to worship him and glorify him yet we distort the marriage union that was created to glorify God. This cannot be so.

And this is not the only damage porn causes. I haven’t even touched on how porn and sex can become your god and idol!

This is a major problem in the church today. Many Christian men and women are viewing porn frequently. Sadly, I was one of them. Now I, along with many others in the church, fight daily to maintain and protect the biblical view of sex and marriage. You must fight, not only for the sake of your soul (see Matt. 5:29-30) but for the sake of your love for God and the glory of God.

Porn may be a pervasive problem, but there is hope for every believer. I will describe the hope Christians have in part 3.

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